Arts & crafts

‘The Jet Carver’s Wife’ – a poem

04 Mar 2022 | Written by By Ruth Dudley

Earlier this month, the theme in Grace’s Creative Writing class was ‘An object from history’.  What I came upon in my ‘treasure’ drawer to focus my thinking on was a jet hatpin, beautifully carved to catch the light. 

Grace suggested we do some research before setting pen to paper. Looking up Jet I discovered its fascinating properties. These formed into an idea in my mind, linking its carving to the emergence of something new and better.

In the last few years I’ve been on the support sidelines as a friend came to finally acknowledge that she had been gradually and increasingly gaslighted in her marriage, and found the strength to face up to it and break free.  It’s been a long and painful journey for her, but she is now established in her own home and mentally in a much better place.  

As is another close friend who made the break from a physically abusive husband a few years ago now, after a life she’d striven to keep secret for the sake of her children.  

Both of these were in my mind as the words formed on the page. I am so proud of them, they proved that once you are able to face up to oppression, you can start to find the wherewithal to pull yourself out and away.



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